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How to gain clarity for the achievement of goals.

17 Jan

How to gain clarity to achieve your goals

What is the dictionary definition of clarity – ‘The quality of being clear, in particular’

Many women who have been in contact with me recently, all come along asking one question. ‘How do I gain clarity in order for me to achieve my goals?’

I decided to do a short video with 6 points that I feel clearly answers that question.

1). Realise that you own control over life’s outcomes. There are many external influences that will impact your wellbeing, but you must be able to be flexible and adjust in order to achieve your goals.

2). Revisit your past. Once you remember where you are coming from this will help you to focus. If you are coming from a past filled with sorrow, abuse, neglect, hurt and loneliness and you make a vow to yourself never to go back to such a time as that or even allow your children to experience it. Then that vow you made to yourself acts as a compass keeping you on track to your final destination.

3). See things through your mind’s eye. Visualize things they way you want them to be and don’t be disheartened by your present situation.

4). Write down your goals. Start your day reading your lists daily so they are constantly fresh at the forefront of your mind.

5). Not all goals will be life changing. Understand that your goals are just that they are yours. So each should be treated with the same treatment and enthusiasm as the previous one.

6). Don’t become to overwhelmed. Take it easy and one step at a time.

I am the CEO of Magdalene Adenaike – Transformation Expert. Working with women who are stuck in the jobs they hate and are ready to leave and start their own thing.

I am also the CEO of Music Relief Foundation – Where we work with your young people to unleash their creative spirits.

Join me this thursday 19th Jan at 20.00 GMT. One hour free online coaching session –Free Coaching Session

The reason why I stopped being someone else and became me 

2 Dec

How many of us can identify with that? When that feeling of inadequacy fills you and you begin to fill that you are not good enough and you have nothing good to offer. 

Well that was me over 10 years ago when I felt that I was not not good enough, and that there was nothing special about me. Those feelings stemmed from deep down feelings of insecurities and lack of confidence within myself and my abilities. 

I have always sang for as long as I can remember primarily only within the  church at that time. The doubting of my abilities started when I first stepped into the studio in 2005. When I first heard a recording of my voice I was in shock because I had always sang in church and my voice sounded fine, but why now did it sound so awful?

I signed up with my first ever vocal coach, but was ashamed and unaware of what I needed to do to understand my voice and become my own person. I felt that I was been mocked at, that even though I was paying for vocal lessons I had already made up my mind that it was not going to work. 

I felt that people were lying to me when I got complimented on my voice and I needed to sound like Beyoncé and sing high notes like Mariah Carey. I hurt my throat in the process of pushing myself to sound like these people and I am so amazed that I did not incur permanent damage. 

It took me almost 6 years before I had the eureka moment. This happened when I was listening to an episode of American Idol some years back and one of the contestants was singing Beyoncé’s song and sounding exactly like her. One of the judges had to stop her and remind her that the world already has Beyoncé and the world needed to hear her. This simple but very direct message jumped out of the television screen right unto me and that was when my journey of change started.

Now, I’m sure that many people reading this blog can resonate with what I am saying here. Many of us especially women and some men feel that until we look, sound or even walk like somebody else then we are not good enough. 

Do you know that everyone of us is fearfully and wonderfully made? Do you know that there is greatness inside of you and that you can do anything and achieve anything in life once you put your mind to it?

Why waste your time wanting to be everybody else, when your destiny is waiting for you to wake up and come into your own in order to achieve your own greatness. 

Stop trying to talk, walk, dress or even act like that other person, when you can have so much fun exploring more about who you really are and how to be your version of fabulous. 

Stop coping and start striving.

Stop envying and start shining 

Stop suffering in silence and start living life for you. 

The extent you are ready to go and the person you are ready to become, is dependent on when you are ready to wake up and smell the coffee. 

I am Magdalene Adenaike, the revolutionary coach, author, inspirational speaker and musician. I help women get out of their rut and start their own thing. I am also the CEO of Music Relief Foundation- where we run music as therapy workshops for young people to unleash their creative spirits and be empowered. 

Don’t be afraid to get it wrong before you start getting it right. 

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As a man thinks in his heart so is he

15 Jun

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What comes to your mind when you read the above statement?

For me two things comes to my mind, firstly a passage from the bible and the other is the realism of that statement. Whatever you believe within yourself will definitely manifest itself on the outside. If you believe that you are capable of achieving greatness then no matter what may be happening around you, you still remain focus and push for your goals.

I have had many years of building, pushing for my goals and striving to overcome doubts and fears within myself. It has been an immense struggle, especially when I was still in the formation process and not really sure of my abilities. Most especially when the voices of people outside seem to be overpowering my own voice, I started telling myself that ‘maybe I really shouldn’t be doing what I am doing after all’. 

I don’t know about others, but for me it was really a time of seeking other people’s approval. I really wanted to be accepted and be classed as someone who really knew what she was talking about from the lips of others. So this led to me beating myself up all the time when I did not hear any complimentary comments from people, and it also led me wanting to please others by displeasing myself. I was taking on so many projects and wearing myself out all because I wanted to be seen as dare I say it ‘Jack of all trades’, but remember what comes after ‘Master of none’. That part never crossed my mind, or should I say I did not allow it to cross my mind because I felt I was too focused and striving for something big and surely this will definitely impress the people now.

Oh what a big error that was, all I got from that at the end of the day was tiredness, frustration and a feeling of emptiness.How could those 9 letter words above be so easy to read but extremely difficult to understand at the same time? How was it that I spent so much time wanting to please people and displease myself? Who are these so-called people and why do they have so much power/influence over me? Why did I give them the keys to my life for so long, whilst ignoring my own voice?

These are questions that came when I finally had the eureka moment and still flooding my mind now as I write this blog. Many of us are still in that phase of our lives and feeling very frustrated and irritable because we have chosen to ignore our own voice and allowed the opinion of others influence our thought process that we then begin to think and act like them. I recently wrote a post that states, ‘Always remember your worth, do not allow the comments of others or external factors hinder you from striving for the best’. Oprah Winfrey was not originally celebrated, instead she suffered abuse, neglect, rejection and the like. She was frowned upon and I am very sure told that she would never amount to anything. She was not recognised at the beginning for being anything, a nobody that should not be associated with. However, can that statement be made of her today? She is widely celebrated for her work and many would like to be compared to her.

Whether you are at your beginning stage, mid stage or growth stage. Know your worth, you may not be widely known as Oprah Winfrey or the like today but that does not mean you do not know what you are saying or doing. No one and I repeat no one should ever make you feel less of yourself. Who are they and how dare they feel they have power over you? 

‘As a man thinks in his heart so is he’

I draw conclusion for now with this, no matter what stage you may be in your life. Remember that you are on your own individualised journey. You do not have to answer to anyone about what steps you are taking excepting you personally give them that permission to question you on your steps. You alone know how the shoe feels when you wear it, so you alone should know when you need to come to your own eureka moment and say enough is enough.

I am Magdalene Adenaike, I help you unearth your why mentoring ladies on a one to one basis. The CEO of Music Relief Foundation (www.music-relief.com)– we run experiential music as therapy workshops for youths, and all youth organisations and charities creating a balanced well-being, building confidence and self-esteem. .

Upcoming Event

A fabulous event for the ladies on the 15th of July –  The Music, The Mango and Me. Is a theatrical performance, a dialogue of two ladies through the words of their books. ‘From Shame to Strength. Music Saved Me‘ – Magdalene Adenaike BA, FRSA. ‘The Mango Girl‘ – Dr. Ava Eagle Brown.

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