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The reason why I stopped being someone else and became me 

2 Dec

How many of us can identify with that? When that feeling of inadequacy fills you and you begin to fill that you are not good enough and you have nothing good to offer. 

Well that was me over 10 years ago when I felt that I was not not good enough, and that there was nothing special about me. Those feelings stemmed from deep down feelings of insecurities and lack of confidence within myself and my abilities. 

I have always sang for as long as I can remember primarily only within the  church at that time. The doubting of my abilities started when I first stepped into the studio in 2005. When I first heard a recording of my voice I was in shock because I had always sang in church and my voice sounded fine, but why now did it sound so awful?

I signed up with my first ever vocal coach, but was ashamed and unaware of what I needed to do to understand my voice and become my own person. I felt that I was been mocked at, that even though I was paying for vocal lessons I had already made up my mind that it was not going to work. 

I felt that people were lying to me when I got complimented on my voice and I needed to sound like Beyoncé and sing high notes like Mariah Carey. I hurt my throat in the process of pushing myself to sound like these people and I am so amazed that I did not incur permanent damage. 

It took me almost 6 years before I had the eureka moment. This happened when I was listening to an episode of American Idol some years back and one of the contestants was singing Beyoncé’s song and sounding exactly like her. One of the judges had to stop her and remind her that the world already has Beyoncé and the world needed to hear her. This simple but very direct message jumped out of the television screen right unto me and that was when my journey of change started.

Now, I’m sure that many people reading this blog can resonate with what I am saying here. Many of us especially women and some men feel that until we look, sound or even walk like somebody else then we are not good enough. 

Do you know that everyone of us is fearfully and wonderfully made? Do you know that there is greatness inside of you and that you can do anything and achieve anything in life once you put your mind to it?

Why waste your time wanting to be everybody else, when your destiny is waiting for you to wake up and come into your own in order to achieve your own greatness. 

Stop trying to talk, walk, dress or even act like that other person, when you can have so much fun exploring more about who you really are and how to be your version of fabulous. 

Stop coping and start striving.

Stop envying and start shining 

Stop suffering in silence and start living life for you. 

The extent you are ready to go and the person you are ready to become, is dependent on when you are ready to wake up and smell the coffee. 

I am Magdalene Adenaike, the revolutionary coach, author, inspirational speaker and musician. I help women get out of their rut and start their own thing. I am also the CEO of Music Relief Foundation- where we run music as therapy workshops for young people to unleash their creative spirits and be empowered. 

Don’t be afraid to get it wrong before you start getting it right. 

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