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How to gain clarity for the achievement of goals.

17 Jan

How to gain clarity to achieve your goals

What is the dictionary definition of clarity – ‘The quality of being clear, in particular’

Many women who have been in contact with me recently, all come along asking one question. ‘How do I gain clarity in order for me to achieve my goals?’

I decided to do a short video with 6 points that I feel clearly answers that question.

1). Realise that you own control over life’s outcomes. There are many external influences that will impact your wellbeing, but you must be able to be flexible and adjust in order to achieve your goals.

2). Revisit your past. Once you remember where you are coming from this will help you to focus. If you are coming from a past filled with sorrow, abuse, neglect, hurt and loneliness and you make a vow to yourself never to go back to such a time as that or even allow your children to experience it. Then that vow you made to yourself acts as a compass keeping you on track to your final destination.

3). See things through your mind’s eye. Visualize things they way you want them to be and don’t be disheartened by your present situation.

4). Write down your goals. Start your day reading your lists daily so they are constantly fresh at the forefront of your mind.

5). Not all goals will be life changing. Understand that your goals are just that they are yours. So each should be treated with the same treatment and enthusiasm as the previous one.

6). Don’t become to overwhelmed. Take it easy and one step at a time.

I am the CEO of Magdalene Adenaike – Transformation Expert. Working with women who are stuck in the jobs they hate and are ready to leave and start their own thing.

I am also the CEO of Music Relief Foundation – Where we work with your young people to unleash their creative spirits.

Join me this thursday 19th Jan at 20.00 GMT. One hour free online coaching session –Free Coaching Session


The reason why I stopped being someone else and became me 

2 Dec

How many of us can identify with that? When that feeling of inadequacy fills you and you begin to fill that you are not good enough and you have nothing good to offer. 

Well that was me over 10 years ago when I felt that I was not not good enough, and that there was nothing special about me. Those feelings stemmed from deep down feelings of insecurities and lack of confidence within myself and my abilities. 

I have always sang for as long as I can remember primarily only within the  church at that time. The doubting of my abilities started when I first stepped into the studio in 2005. When I first heard a recording of my voice I was in shock because I had always sang in church and my voice sounded fine, but why now did it sound so awful?

I signed up with my first ever vocal coach, but was ashamed and unaware of what I needed to do to understand my voice and become my own person. I felt that I was been mocked at, that even though I was paying for vocal lessons I had already made up my mind that it was not going to work. 

I felt that people were lying to me when I got complimented on my voice and I needed to sound like Beyoncé and sing high notes like Mariah Carey. I hurt my throat in the process of pushing myself to sound like these people and I am so amazed that I did not incur permanent damage. 

It took me almost 6 years before I had the eureka moment. This happened when I was listening to an episode of American Idol some years back and one of the contestants was singing Beyoncé’s song and sounding exactly like her. One of the judges had to stop her and remind her that the world already has Beyoncé and the world needed to hear her. This simple but very direct message jumped out of the television screen right unto me and that was when my journey of change started.

Now, I’m sure that many people reading this blog can resonate with what I am saying here. Many of us especially women and some men feel that until we look, sound or even walk like somebody else then we are not good enough. 

Do you know that everyone of us is fearfully and wonderfully made? Do you know that there is greatness inside of you and that you can do anything and achieve anything in life once you put your mind to it?

Why waste your time wanting to be everybody else, when your destiny is waiting for you to wake up and come into your own in order to achieve your own greatness. 

Stop trying to talk, walk, dress or even act like that other person, when you can have so much fun exploring more about who you really are and how to be your version of fabulous. 

Stop coping and start striving.

Stop envying and start shining 

Stop suffering in silence and start living life for you. 

The extent you are ready to go and the person you are ready to become, is dependent on when you are ready to wake up and smell the coffee. 

I am Magdalene Adenaike, the revolutionary coach, author, inspirational speaker and musician. I help women get out of their rut and start their own thing. I am also the CEO of Music Relief Foundation- where we run music as therapy workshops for young people to unleash their creative spirits and be empowered. 

Don’t be afraid to get it wrong before you start getting it right. 

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5 things to try when you’ve lost your motivation 

17 Oct

1). Surround yourself with your pick up people. Call it whatever name you want, but get people around you who will always inspire you to pick yourself up when you feel down. 

2). Visualise your life through your minds eye, stop focusing on the here and now. 

3). Take a different look at your hobby, could it be more than a hobby?

4). Write down your 10 before 10. 10 things you can achieve before 10am each day. 

5). Program your mind for success. Have a book of memories and record your past achievements as a constant reminder.

I am the Founder and CEO of Music Relief, a youth based Organization working with teen parents and youth offenders. I also consult and mentor women who are ready to turn their hobbies to a business – https://m.soundcloud.com/inspireurbiz/how-to-turn-your-hobby-into-a-business-magdalene-adenaike

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Determination Pays Off

9 Aug

This picture was taken in November 2011, at my graduation ceremony at the O2 arena from The University of East London upon completion of my 3 years degree program BA Hons Music Industry Management. 

1). 12 years after my last education program

2). 12 years after the birth of my first born (Master Music Relief himself)

3). 5 years after the divorce from my first husband 

4). 3 years after meeting and marrying my husband (Mr. Adenaike himself).

5). 2 years after I was told that I would need to extend the 3 years course to a 4 years course because I was due to have my 3rd child in the second semester of my first year of uni. 

6). 3 months pregnant with my 4th child (my baby, my ketchup) at the time the picture was taken. 

7). The year Music Relief began its formation process. 

No matter how long your desired goal maybe, never give up. If I had listened to my lecturers at the time I would have graduated in 2012. You are stronger than you know if only you will believe. Determination plus perseverance = laughter. 

It is always upwards and onwards.

I am Magdalene Adenaike, I help you unearth your why mentoring ladies on a one to one basis. The CEO of Music Relief Foundation (www.music-relief.com)– we run experiential music as therapy workshops for youths, and all youth organisations and charities creating a balanced well-being, building confidence and self-esteem. .

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The audacity to dream big

20 Jul

It’s been almost a week since we started enjoying this undisturbed back to back glorious sunshine here in the UK. Yes, it has been very sticky with very hot and uncomfortable nights but I wouldn’t change it for the world. 

I have heard many people complain about the weather, even one of my sons asked me if this heat wave was some kind of a punishment from God. (Lol) 

Why do we complain when we ask for something? Words have power, what you say intentionally or unintentionally will manifest in your life. 

What are you praying and working towards? Are things going the way you desire? Are your dreams bigger than you? The audacity to dream big can only be determined by the words you say. Your circumstances may not match what you are saying, but the fact that you still say it any way takes courage that should never be undermined.  

The story of rags to riches resonates tenacious characteristics of the audacity of the individual who dares to dream big and never allows any bumps on the road to success to stop him/her. 

The resolve to have a mind set that never quits must be applauded, because that individual can only see his/her end goal and does not flinch at the prospect of the journey ahead. 

What are you waiting for, do you have the audacity to dream big? 

I am Magdalene Adenaike, the CEO of Music Relief Foundation (www.music-relief.com)– we run experiential music as therapy workshops for youths. Award winning entrepreneur, inspirational speaker, musician, mentor, artist development coach, author and radio presenter and producer of – Deep Truths. I mentor women especially small business female owners Unearth their Why

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7 Strategic Tips for unearthing your WHY

22 Jun









Have you started thinking about your why?

Why are you still alive?

Have you ever thought of your experiences? Why did you go through what you went through/or going through?

Life is a not a bed of roses, there are many challenges and difficulties that we experience. Unfortunately, many are consumed by these challenges and difficulties and are no longer with us. However, many of us are still here and some of us are trying to make sense of our experiences to help ourselves and others.

It’s important that I state here that, whilst in this journey of trying to make sense of your experiences you slip into a somewhat backward trail of regrets, stagnation, frustration, denial, delays etc. Don’t despair. I always tell people that we are all on a journey, and each person’s path of life is different. It’s easy to get sucked into a world of deception when it appears that everyone else is progressing and living great lives, whilst yours is either moving backwards or not moving at all.

I fully understand that feeling and experience that so often, but below are 7 strategic tips that I have personally used and still using which helps me to overcome those unhealthy feelings.

1). Believe in God – Many may say, ‘oh I don’t believe in God, I believe in x’. Whatever that ‘x’ maybe believe in him,her or it if that’s where you get comfort and relief from.

2). Be true to yourself – You can lie to everyone else but you can’t lie to yourself. Where have you come from? What happened or is happening to you? Sit down and have several discussions with yourself.

3). How can you use your experience to help others? – Some people have experienced truly horrendous and traumatic things in their lives and are daily having to live with those things. Some haven’t experienced such and may not be able to relate. Whatever side of the coin you find yourself in, my question to you is ‘how can you use your experience to help others?

4). Are you willing to learn? – Life is a great teacher and the learning process never stops. When an individual feels that they know it all, that’s when friends and family needs to begin to ring the alarm bells to help that individual come back to earth.

5). Are you fed up with the way things are right now? – I have spoken with many individuals who have informed me of their unhappiness in the direction of their lives. Many are fed up of their work, fed up of not being happy, or simply just fed up of being fed up and feel they need to do something but unsure what.

6). Who do you admire and wish you could do what they do? I love and admire Beyoncé and always refer to her as my sister from another mother. She epitomizes what it means to be a true and all rounded entertainer, and for that I truly admire and respect her.When I put on my musicians hat those qualities are amongst the many things that steer me towards a great outcome.

7). Be ready for the journey – ‘Room was not built in a day’. Don’t be in a haste, remember life is a continuous journey. Take your time, learn from others, take time out from the rat race and be by yourself. Think about a lasting legacy and not here today and gone tomorrow.

I was a bullied at school because of my accent when I came to this country from my homeland in Nigeria as a young girl. This led to a downward spiral for me as I chose another identity in order to fit in and consequently led to the teenage pregnancy. I faced stigma from family and community. I was kicked out of the choir as I was told I was a disgrace, I faced shame, isolation, loneliness, frustration, depression, an object of mockery and reproach. Music was my escape route, even though I was not allowed to sing publicly any longer, it gave me solace in my isolation. Music birthed my WHY, which led to the desire to work with other teen parents supporting them through their issues. These consequently led me to a wider audience who were also hurting and looking for ways to address their problems. Eventually prompting the formation of my organisation Music Relief Foundation – Transforming lives creatively and consistently. We run experiential workshops for youths and women. I wrote a book about my life so far, and my experiences has led me amongst other things to becoming an inspirational speaker and mentor.

I am Magdalene Adenaike, I help you unearth your why mentoring ladies on a one to one basis. The CEO of Music Relief Foundation (www.music-relief.com)– we run experiential music as therapy workshops for youths, and all youth organisations and charities creating a balanced well-being, building confidence and self-esteem. .

Upcoming Event

A fabulous event for the ladies on the 15th of July –  The Music, The Mango and Me. Is a theatrical performance, a dialogue of two ladies through the words of their books. ‘From Shame to Strength. Music Saved Me‘ – Magdalene Adenaike BA, FRSA. ‘The Mango Girl‘ – Dr. Ava Eagle Brown.

Register now for this event – The Music, The Mango and Me

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If you are ready to Unearth your Why and live a purpose filled life.

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Build your confidence through the Arts

12 Apr

Many of us as children or with our own children, were enrolled and/or encourage our children to partake in various activities that are arts related. We go through hours of listening and participating in one way or the other in order to perfect our craft, and build confidence within ourselves whilst doing so.

However, many children as they grow up are either discouraged to continue or give up this one time passion for other pursuits. My question here is, ‘Why is that’? It has been proven that arts related activities help boost a child’s self-image. Whether in an individual or group setting arts education improves a child’s learning.

As a musician myself (my voice is my tool), I have seen great improvement within myself when I have to stand in front of an audience. I see it exhibited even more when I work with various individuals whether in a workshop setting or on a one to one basis. Seeing the whole transformation of the individual from a once withdrawn person to a more confident and outgoing person is indeed a great revelation.

I do not only request that children pursue after arts related activities, adults alike are also much more advised and encouraged to do so. In my opinion, you do not have to be the best singer to want to sing but having the desire to want to do it and been able to combat any fears you may have in order for you to stand in front of an audience must be applauded and appreciated. Let me just quickly say that singing is not for everybody, but do you know that singing has transferable skills that can present itself when you need to stand in front of an audience to speak? Learning to be a great public speaker is an art of its own and has to be developed and cultivated within the individual. So if your dream is to become the next Vincent Van Gogh (famous artist), Darcey Bussell CBE ( a retired famous ballerina and a judge on Strictly Come Dancing), or Stevie Wonder (all rounded musical genius) etc. It takes one step at a time.

The arts instil pride within the individual – after spending hours and hours on whatever your chosen field is and then finally able to look back with a sense of accomplishment. Is a great skill in your journey of self-development in the actualisation of your dreams.

The arts develop real-life skills – critical and creative thinking, hand-eye coordination, motor skills, social skills, sharing and negotiating. From my personal experience and from my work with others, human being are better able to deepen their thinking through a creative response. Thus learning persistence and higher level of creative thinking in the desire to accomplish that piece of art.

The art increases an individual’s sense of belonging to a group or community – the whole ideal of working collectively as a body towards something draws those individuals together. A tight bond is developed, friendships are formed and a person’s sense of worth is increased because that individual feels valued and understood.

As I begin to draw conclusion for this article, I would like to leave this with you the reader. It’s never too late to go back to your old passion or start to learn something new. As a confidence building expert of the arts, I fully understand and appreciate the power of the arts in all its manifestations, and therefore request everyone reading this if not already doing so. To get involved in an art related activity and develop new skills that you never knew you had.

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