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The reason why I stopped being someone else and became me 

2 Dec

How many of us can identify with that? When that feeling of inadequacy fills you and you begin to fill that you are not good enough and you have nothing good to offer. 

Well that was me over 10 years ago when I felt that I was not not good enough, and that there was nothing special about me. Those feelings stemmed from deep down feelings of insecurities and lack of confidence within myself and my abilities. 

I have always sang for as long as I can remember primarily only within the  church at that time. The doubting of my abilities started when I first stepped into the studio in 2005. When I first heard a recording of my voice I was in shock because I had always sang in church and my voice sounded fine, but why now did it sound so awful?

I signed up with my first ever vocal coach, but was ashamed and unaware of what I needed to do to understand my voice and become my own person. I felt that I was been mocked at, that even though I was paying for vocal lessons I had already made up my mind that it was not going to work. 

I felt that people were lying to me when I got complimented on my voice and I needed to sound like Beyoncé and sing high notes like Mariah Carey. I hurt my throat in the process of pushing myself to sound like these people and I am so amazed that I did not incur permanent damage. 

It took me almost 6 years before I had the eureka moment. This happened when I was listening to an episode of American Idol some years back and one of the contestants was singing Beyoncé’s song and sounding exactly like her. One of the judges had to stop her and remind her that the world already has Beyoncé and the world needed to hear her. This simple but very direct message jumped out of the television screen right unto me and that was when my journey of change started.

Now, I’m sure that many people reading this blog can resonate with what I am saying here. Many of us especially women and some men feel that until we look, sound or even walk like somebody else then we are not good enough. 

Do you know that everyone of us is fearfully and wonderfully made? Do you know that there is greatness inside of you and that you can do anything and achieve anything in life once you put your mind to it?

Why waste your time wanting to be everybody else, when your destiny is waiting for you to wake up and come into your own in order to achieve your own greatness. 

Stop trying to talk, walk, dress or even act like that other person, when you can have so much fun exploring more about who you really are and how to be your version of fabulous. 

Stop coping and start striving.

Stop envying and start shining 

Stop suffering in silence and start living life for you. 

The extent you are ready to go and the person you are ready to become, is dependent on when you are ready to wake up and smell the coffee. 

I am Magdalene Adenaike, the revolutionary coach, author, inspirational speaker and musician. I help women get out of their rut and start their own thing. I am also the CEO of Music Relief Foundation- where we run music as therapy workshops for young people to unleash their creative spirits and be empowered. 

Don’t be afraid to get it wrong before you start getting it right. 

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Words of Wisdom

13 Jul

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I am Magdalene Adenaike, I help you unearth your why mentoring ladies on a one to one basis. The CEO of Music Relief Foundation (www.music-relief.com)– we run experiential music as therapy workshops for youths, and all youth organisations and charities creating a balanced well-being, building confidence and self-esteem. .

Upcoming Event

A fabulous event for the ladies on the 15th of July –  The Music, The Mango and Me. Is a theatrical performance, a dialogue of two ladies through the words of their books. ‘From Shame to Strength. Music Saved Me‘ – Magdalene Adenaike BA, FRSA. ‘The Mango Girl‘ – Dr. Ava Eagle Brown.

Register now for this event – The Music, The Mango and Me   The Music, The Mango and Me Promo

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Your Foundation Matters

6 Jul

 

Most of us love cake, but no matter how decorated that cake is on the outside. If that cake is not fully baked on the inside the beauty of that cake is only found on the outward appearance. Time is needed to get that cake fully baked, so it is for our lives and businesses.

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Your Foundation Matters

I am Magdalene Adenaike, I help you unearth your why mentoring ladies on a one to one basis. The CEO of Music Relief Foundation (www.music-relief.com)– we run experiential music as therapy workshops for youths, and all youth organisations and charities creating a balanced well-being, building confidence and self-esteem. .

Upcoming Event

A fabulous event for the ladies on the 15th of July –  The Music, The Mango and Me. Is a theatrical performance, a dialogue of two ladies through the words of their books. ‘From Shame to Strength. Music Saved Me‘ – Magdalene Adenaike BA, FRSA. ‘The Mango Girl‘ – Dr. Ava Eagle Brown.

Register now for this event – The Music, The Mango and Me   The Music, The Mango and Me Promo

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If you are ready to Unearth your Why and live a purpose filled life.

Contact me now let’s start the work together.

Make the shift from failure to success

29 Jun

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Are you successful? Do you think of success? What is success and what does it it mean to you?

I will be dissecting what success really means and how we can make that shift.

What is Success –‘The accomplishment of an aim or purpose’.

Success to you may look totally different to mine and vise versa. I decide to run a marathon and win or lose I am determined to complete it because without that completion my efforts is futile. Success is an individual’s pursuit for their own goal. 

What makes a person a failure? Is it when he/she does not make the highest grade or finishes the race on record time and is not the 1st to end? The dictionary definition of  failure is ‘The neglect or omission of expected or required action’. 

What are your plans? Are you on track? On a scale of 1 – 5 with 1 being right on track and 5 being completely off track. Where would you place yourself? Are you beating up yourself for not ‘getting there yet’? Wherever there is. Remember success means the accomplishment of an aim or purpose, whilst failure is the neglect or omission of expected or required action. I would also include that failure is only failure when you remain in that place of self loathing because the deadline you may have set for yourself to achieve something has lapsed.

The shift from failure to success is a mind game, and can only occur when the individual has decided that he/she is ready to take the next step and willing to go the long haul in order to achieve whatever they have set their mind to achieve. When the individual chooses to use their past experiences as the starting point for a greater tomorrow, he/she needs to take time out from the ratrace to reflect on their life’s journey so far. They have to be willing to unlock the doors to the unpleasant and painful experiences they may have faced previously. That person should be willing to be truthful to themselves and develop some form of a thick skin, because in life there are many challenges and obstacles that come along the way.

What you say to yourself is very important especially in the midst of your down times. Don’t be persuaded to name yourself along with your current situation. I read about a young man recently who told his friends and family members that he would one day propose to the woman he would marry in front of the Eiffel Tower in Paris. This was while he was still in his own country, no money and no girlfriend. He said many laughed at him and told him to keep dreaming, but he was not discouraged by what was said to him. He continued saying it despite his present situation at the time. I’m sure you know what I’m going to say now, well yes he did finally get to Paris and yes he did actually propose to his girlfriend in front of Eiffel Tower. The fact that his words created his world is very powerful, he decided to make the shift from failure to success disregarding the reality of his previous situation.

Bear with me a moment while I take everyone to church. ‘There is life and death in the tongue’. I don’t know the man, but what really made me make reference to him was the fact that he spoke his own reality to physical manifestation even when everything and everyone around him mocked and opposed him. Your mind is a battlefield, battling between the present reality and the reality you want for yourself. Don’t be discouraged, keep the faith. Remember the definitions of success and failure, don’t compare yourself to others and beat yourself down if things do not seem to be progressing the way it is for others.

I am Magdalene Adenaike, I help you unearth your why mentoring ladies on a one to one basis. The CEO of Music Relief Foundation (www.music-relief.com)– we run experiential music as therapy workshops for youths, and all youth organisations and charities creating a balanced well-being, building confidence and self-esteem. .

Upcoming Event

A fabulous event for the ladies on the 15th of July –  The Music, The Mango and Me. Is a theatrical performance, a dialogue of two ladies through the words of their books. ‘From Shame to Strength. Music Saved Me‘ – Magdalene Adenaike BA, FRSA. ‘The Mango Girl‘ – Dr. Ava Eagle Brown.

Register now for this event – The Music, The Mango and Me Promo

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If you are ready to Unearth your Why and live a purpose filled life.

Contact me now let’s start the work together.

 

 

 

 

7 Strategic Tips for unearthing your WHY

22 Jun

 

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Have you started thinking about your why?

Why are you still alive?

Have you ever thought of your experiences? Why did you go through what you went through/or going through?

Life is a not a bed of roses, there are many challenges and difficulties that we experience. Unfortunately, many are consumed by these challenges and difficulties and are no longer with us. However, many of us are still here and some of us are trying to make sense of our experiences to help ourselves and others.

It’s important that I state here that, whilst in this journey of trying to make sense of your experiences you slip into a somewhat backward trail of regrets, stagnation, frustration, denial, delays etc. Don’t despair. I always tell people that we are all on a journey, and each person’s path of life is different. It’s easy to get sucked into a world of deception when it appears that everyone else is progressing and living great lives, whilst yours is either moving backwards or not moving at all.

I fully understand that feeling and experience that so often, but below are 7 strategic tips that I have personally used and still using which helps me to overcome those unhealthy feelings.

1). Believe in God – Many may say, ‘oh I don’t believe in God, I believe in x’. Whatever that ‘x’ maybe believe in him,her or it if that’s where you get comfort and relief from.

2). Be true to yourself – You can lie to everyone else but you can’t lie to yourself. Where have you come from? What happened or is happening to you? Sit down and have several discussions with yourself.

3). How can you use your experience to help others? – Some people have experienced truly horrendous and traumatic things in their lives and are daily having to live with those things. Some haven’t experienced such and may not be able to relate. Whatever side of the coin you find yourself in, my question to you is ‘how can you use your experience to help others?

4). Are you willing to learn? – Life is a great teacher and the learning process never stops. When an individual feels that they know it all, that’s when friends and family needs to begin to ring the alarm bells to help that individual come back to earth.

5). Are you fed up with the way things are right now? – I have spoken with many individuals who have informed me of their unhappiness in the direction of their lives. Many are fed up of their work, fed up of not being happy, or simply just fed up of being fed up and feel they need to do something but unsure what.

6). Who do you admire and wish you could do what they do? I love and admire Beyoncé and always refer to her as my sister from another mother. She epitomizes what it means to be a true and all rounded entertainer, and for that I truly admire and respect her.When I put on my musicians hat those qualities are amongst the many things that steer me towards a great outcome.

7). Be ready for the journey – ‘Room was not built in a day’. Don’t be in a haste, remember life is a continuous journey. Take your time, learn from others, take time out from the rat race and be by yourself. Think about a lasting legacy and not here today and gone tomorrow.

I was a bullied at school because of my accent when I came to this country from my homeland in Nigeria as a young girl. This led to a downward spiral for me as I chose another identity in order to fit in and consequently led to the teenage pregnancy. I faced stigma from family and community. I was kicked out of the choir as I was told I was a disgrace, I faced shame, isolation, loneliness, frustration, depression, an object of mockery and reproach. Music was my escape route, even though I was not allowed to sing publicly any longer, it gave me solace in my isolation. Music birthed my WHY, which led to the desire to work with other teen parents supporting them through their issues. These consequently led me to a wider audience who were also hurting and looking for ways to address their problems. Eventually prompting the formation of my organisation Music Relief Foundation – Transforming lives creatively and consistently. We run experiential workshops for youths and women. I wrote a book about my life so far, and my experiences has led me amongst other things to becoming an inspirational speaker and mentor.

I am Magdalene Adenaike, I help you unearth your why mentoring ladies on a one to one basis. The CEO of Music Relief Foundation (www.music-relief.com)– we run experiential music as therapy workshops for youths, and all youth organisations and charities creating a balanced well-being, building confidence and self-esteem. .

Upcoming Event

A fabulous event for the ladies on the 15th of July –  The Music, The Mango and Me. Is a theatrical performance, a dialogue of two ladies through the words of their books. ‘From Shame to Strength. Music Saved Me‘ – Magdalene Adenaike BA, FRSA. ‘The Mango Girl‘ – Dr. Ava Eagle Brown.

Register now for this event – The Music, The Mango and Me

Contact Me Now

Facebook:madenaike1      Twitter:@madenaike1       LinkedIn:magdaleneadenaike  Instagram:madenaike      Email: magdalene@music-relief.com

If you are ready to Unearth your Why and live a purpose filled life.

Contact me now let’s start the work together.

 

 

As a man thinks in his heart so is he

15 Jun

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What comes to your mind when you read the above statement?

For me two things comes to my mind, firstly a passage from the bible and the other is the realism of that statement. Whatever you believe within yourself will definitely manifest itself on the outside. If you believe that you are capable of achieving greatness then no matter what may be happening around you, you still remain focus and push for your goals.

I have had many years of building, pushing for my goals and striving to overcome doubts and fears within myself. It has been an immense struggle, especially when I was still in the formation process and not really sure of my abilities. Most especially when the voices of people outside seem to be overpowering my own voice, I started telling myself that ‘maybe I really shouldn’t be doing what I am doing after all’. 

I don’t know about others, but for me it was really a time of seeking other people’s approval. I really wanted to be accepted and be classed as someone who really knew what she was talking about from the lips of others. So this led to me beating myself up all the time when I did not hear any complimentary comments from people, and it also led me wanting to please others by displeasing myself. I was taking on so many projects and wearing myself out all because I wanted to be seen as dare I say it ‘Jack of all trades’, but remember what comes after ‘Master of none’. That part never crossed my mind, or should I say I did not allow it to cross my mind because I felt I was too focused and striving for something big and surely this will definitely impress the people now.

Oh what a big error that was, all I got from that at the end of the day was tiredness, frustration and a feeling of emptiness.How could those 9 letter words above be so easy to read but extremely difficult to understand at the same time? How was it that I spent so much time wanting to please people and displease myself? Who are these so-called people and why do they have so much power/influence over me? Why did I give them the keys to my life for so long, whilst ignoring my own voice?

These are questions that came when I finally had the eureka moment and still flooding my mind now as I write this blog. Many of us are still in that phase of our lives and feeling very frustrated and irritable because we have chosen to ignore our own voice and allowed the opinion of others influence our thought process that we then begin to think and act like them. I recently wrote a post that states, ‘Always remember your worth, do not allow the comments of others or external factors hinder you from striving for the best’. Oprah Winfrey was not originally celebrated, instead she suffered abuse, neglect, rejection and the like. She was frowned upon and I am very sure told that she would never amount to anything. She was not recognised at the beginning for being anything, a nobody that should not be associated with. However, can that statement be made of her today? She is widely celebrated for her work and many would like to be compared to her.

Whether you are at your beginning stage, mid stage or growth stage. Know your worth, you may not be widely known as Oprah Winfrey or the like today but that does not mean you do not know what you are saying or doing. No one and I repeat no one should ever make you feel less of yourself. Who are they and how dare they feel they have power over you? 

‘As a man thinks in his heart so is he’

I draw conclusion for now with this, no matter what stage you may be in your life. Remember that you are on your own individualised journey. You do not have to answer to anyone about what steps you are taking excepting you personally give them that permission to question you on your steps. You alone know how the shoe feels when you wear it, so you alone should know when you need to come to your own eureka moment and say enough is enough.

I am Magdalene Adenaike, I help you unearth your why mentoring ladies on a one to one basis. The CEO of Music Relief Foundation (www.music-relief.com)– we run experiential music as therapy workshops for youths, and all youth organisations and charities creating a balanced well-being, building confidence and self-esteem. .

Upcoming Event

A fabulous event for the ladies on the 15th of July –  The Music, The Mango and Me. Is a theatrical performance, a dialogue of two ladies through the words of their books. ‘From Shame to Strength. Music Saved Me‘ – Magdalene Adenaike BA, FRSA. ‘The Mango Girl‘ – Dr. Ava Eagle Brown.

Register now for this event – The Music, The Mango and Me

Contact Me Now

Facebook:madenaike1      Twitter:@madenaike1       LinkedIn:magdaleneadenaike   Instagram:madenaike      Email: magdalene@music-relief.com

Build your confidence through the Arts

12 Apr

Many of us as children or with our own children, were enrolled and/or encourage our children to partake in various activities that are arts related. We go through hours of listening and participating in one way or the other in order to perfect our craft, and build confidence within ourselves whilst doing so.

However, many children as they grow up are either discouraged to continue or give up this one time passion for other pursuits. My question here is, ‘Why is that’? It has been proven that arts related activities help boost a child’s self-image. Whether in an individual or group setting arts education improves a child’s learning.

As a musician myself (my voice is my tool), I have seen great improvement within myself when I have to stand in front of an audience. I see it exhibited even more when I work with various individuals whether in a workshop setting or on a one to one basis. Seeing the whole transformation of the individual from a once withdrawn person to a more confident and outgoing person is indeed a great revelation.

I do not only request that children pursue after arts related activities, adults alike are also much more advised and encouraged to do so. In my opinion, you do not have to be the best singer to want to sing but having the desire to want to do it and been able to combat any fears you may have in order for you to stand in front of an audience must be applauded and appreciated. Let me just quickly say that singing is not for everybody, but do you know that singing has transferable skills that can present itself when you need to stand in front of an audience to speak? Learning to be a great public speaker is an art of its own and has to be developed and cultivated within the individual. So if your dream is to become the next Vincent Van Gogh (famous artist), Darcey Bussell CBE ( a retired famous ballerina and a judge on Strictly Come Dancing), or Stevie Wonder (all rounded musical genius) etc. It takes one step at a time.

The arts instil pride within the individual – after spending hours and hours on whatever your chosen field is and then finally able to look back with a sense of accomplishment. Is a great skill in your journey of self-development in the actualisation of your dreams.

The arts develop real-life skills – critical and creative thinking, hand-eye coordination, motor skills, social skills, sharing and negotiating. From my personal experience and from my work with others, human being are better able to deepen their thinking through a creative response. Thus learning persistence and higher level of creative thinking in the desire to accomplish that piece of art.

The art increases an individual’s sense of belonging to a group or community – the whole ideal of working collectively as a body towards something draws those individuals together. A tight bond is developed, friendships are formed and a person’s sense of worth is increased because that individual feels valued and understood.

As I begin to draw conclusion for this article, I would like to leave this with you the reader. It’s never too late to go back to your old passion or start to learn something new. As a confidence building expert of the arts, I fully understand and appreciate the power of the arts in all its manifestations, and therefore request everyone reading this if not already doing so. To get involved in an art related activity and develop new skills that you never knew you had.

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