Make the shift from failure to success

29 Jun


Are you successful? Do you think of success? What is success and what does it it mean to you?

I will be dissecting what success really means and how we can make that shift.

What is Success –‘The accomplishment of an aim or purpose’.

Success to you may look totally different to mine and vise versa. I decide to run a marathon and win or lose I am determined to complete it because without that completion my efforts is futile. Success is an individual’s pursuit for their own goal. 

What makes a person a failure? Is it when he/she does not make the highest grade or finishes the race on record time and is not the 1st to end? The dictionary definition of  failure is ‘The neglect or omission of expected or required action’. 

What are your plans? Are you on track? On a scale of 1 – 5 with 1 being right on track and 5 being completely off track. Where would you place yourself? Are you beating up yourself for not ‘getting there yet’? Wherever there is. Remember success means the accomplishment of an aim or purpose, whilst failure is the neglect or omission of expected or required action. I would also include that failure is only failure when you remain in that place of self loathing because the deadline you may have set for yourself to achieve something has lapsed.

The shift from failure to success is a mind game, and can only occur when the individual has decided that he/she is ready to take the next step and willing to go the long haul in order to achieve whatever they have set their mind to achieve. When the individual chooses to use their past experiences as the starting point for a greater tomorrow, he/she needs to take time out from the ratrace to reflect on their life’s journey so far. They have to be willing to unlock the doors to the unpleasant and painful experiences they may have faced previously. That person should be willing to be truthful to themselves and develop some form of a thick skin, because in life there are many challenges and obstacles that come along the way.

What you say to yourself is very important especially in the midst of your down times. Don’t be persuaded to name yourself along with your current situation. I read about a young man recently who told his friends and family members that he would one day propose to the woman he would marry in front of the Eiffel Tower in Paris. This was while he was still in his own country, no money and no girlfriend. He said many laughed at him and told him to keep dreaming, but he was not discouraged by what was said to him. He continued saying it despite his present situation at the time. I’m sure you know what I’m going to say now, well yes he did finally get to Paris and yes he did actually propose to his girlfriend in front of Eiffel Tower. The fact that his words created his world is very powerful, he decided to make the shift from failure to success disregarding the reality of his previous situation.

Bear with me a moment while I take everyone to church. ‘There is life and death in the tongue’. I don’t know the man, but what really made me make reference to him was the fact that he spoke his own reality to physical manifestation even when everything and everyone around him mocked and opposed him. Your mind is a battlefield, battling between the present reality and the reality you want for yourself. Don’t be discouraged, keep the faith. Remember the definitions of success and failure, don’t compare yourself to others and beat yourself down if things do not seem to be progressing the way it is for others.

I am Magdalene Adenaike, I help you unearth your why mentoring ladies on a one to one basis. The CEO of Music Relief Foundation (– we run experiential music as therapy workshops for youths, and all youth organisations and charities creating a balanced well-being, building confidence and self-esteem. .

Upcoming Event

A fabulous event for the ladies on the 15th of July –  The Music, The Mango and Me. Is a theatrical performance, a dialogue of two ladies through the words of their books. ‘From Shame to Strength. Music Saved Me‘ – Magdalene Adenaike BA, FRSA. ‘The Mango Girl‘ – Dr. Ava Eagle Brown.

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